Wednesday, 14 December 2016

Christmas Traditions

Up until the age of about 21, I thought everyone had the same Christmas experience. I thought everyone did the same as each other in the lead up to Christmas, throughout the festive period, and on the day itself.

I feel incredibly fortunate that my family have always been lovers of Christmas and I consider them to be true experts when it comes to all things festive. Perhaps this is why, to me, Christmas is a very special time of year. I hope in years to come I have passed the true spirit of Christmas on to my children and that they enjoy some of the family traditions we have indulged in over the years.

When I was 25, I spent Christmas in Australia. I was very apprehensive about spending Christmas on the other side of the world, but I was part way through a trip around the globe and, although I desperately wanted to, I couldn’t really justify popping home for the winter festivities. So I faced Christmas in the sunshine, perhaps a BBQ on Bondi? A picnic by the Opera House? None of it seemed quite right to me. Instead, I gathered with three other homesick Brits to enjoy a proper ‘British Christmas’ with all the trimmings. In the weeks leading up to the day, we discussed what we would miss most about spending Christmas at home and I was intrigued by the various traditions different families had during December. How could everyone have such different Christmases? I felt I was missing out. So, we decided that we would each enjoy a different tradition on Christmas day that we would usually be doing with our families at home. We had a Christmas Day speech, just before lunch, celebrating all we had achieved together that year (or since we met, in September…), Christmas stockings ‘Secret Santa’ style on a $10 budget, and smoked salmon and scrambled eggs for breakfast, and finally (after consuming more wine than on all my previous Christmases put together) 'Christmas Karaoke' of which I am ashamed to say, there is video evidence...somewhere...


I find it fascinating how many Christmas traditions different families enjoy and we have adopted a few over the years. With a new addition to our little family, I wanted to add a new tradition to our ever growing list and my research led me to some beautifully thoughtful and inspired ideas. I thought I would share some of our family traditions with you as well as some ideas which I am sure we will be adding in future years…

The Little Men
When I was young, I always knew it was Christmas when the ‘Little Men’ made an appearance. The first decoration to be put up and the last to be taken down, we now have our own decoration, a nativity set, which we use in a similar way to mark the opening and closing of the festive period. One day, perhaps we will find our own ‘Little Men’!



Christmas Day Walk in our Pjs…with wellies!
A recent tradition which involves not getting out of our pjs on Christmas Day….bliss! Hats, coats, gloves and scarfs still in our pjs underneath and off we go for a walk. Luckily, my parents live in a quiet village… Not sure I’d do the same around Winchester!

Christmas Eve Box
Something I have been waiting to have children to be able to do, although Boo may be a bit small this year! A box containing some of the following items:

- New Christmas pjs
- A Christmas storybook
- A Christmas film
- Christmas activities
- Christmas cuddly toy
- Hot chocolate and marshmallows

All of these can be enjoyed on the eve of the big day in an attempt to calm and contain the little people. Obviously you can go to the extreme of a personalised box and contents, which is becoming a new trend!

Christmas Jumpers
Hugely popular in recent years, we usually dedicate a day over Christmas to all wear our ‘Christmas Jumpers’. Some are happy with the gaudy snowmen with a knitted carrot sticking out, or Christmas tree with flashing lights, others are more traditional with Fair Isle patterns. One day I’d love to knit our own jumpers… But knitting may be a bit beyond me at the moment!

Christmas Speech
A collaboration of all of the events and achievements of everyone around the dinner table, presented by a chosen family member who is given enough notice to write it!

Matching Christmas Pjs
This is our new one for this year. A family set of Christmas pjs, I was very excited to be able to find ones in adult, children and baby sizes!

Sleeping Under the Christmas Tree
We introduced this to our list of traditions when my stepdaughter was 2. To many, it sounds absolutely nuts, but it has become one of the highlights of December for us all. We move furniture, relocate the mattresses, ensure we have enough duvets, pillows and cushions to sink a small ship, then all snuggle down in the lounge, drinking hot chocolate with marshmallows, under the glow of the Christmas lights and watch Christmas films until we fall asleep. Something very different!



Table Presents
Something I thought everyone indulged in, but I have discovered it is not so! When all the presents have been opened, stockings have been emptied and the Christmas tree is looking a little bare around the bottom, it’s time for lunch. You reach the table and notice there is one more gift… a table present, sneaking in at the last minute as the final gift of the day. Whether it is something to make you laugh, or the last thing off of your list that you thought you were going to have to try and hunt down in the sale, it’s a lovely way to wrap up the gifting.

Stirring the Christmas Cake
I am proud to say that our cakes have become rather legendary, with orders now being taken for next year already! This year, we had 4 to make, bake and decorate and it was wonderful that the girls could help (with most of it, not the icing, no way, my OCD would not allow that!). The stirring of the cake and wish making is a tradition that we will definitely pass on.



Gingerbread House competition
Ready, steady, DECORATE!! A wonderful task for a rainy winters day whether you are making them from scratch or using a pre-made house to decorate this can be a great way to occupy hundreds of family members. Whether in teams or as individuals, it is great fun… As is the demolition and consumption afterwards!

Ornament Collecting
My favourite tradition. Every year, we buy a new decoration for our stepdaughter and we keep them all together in a special Christmas box. We will continue to do this every year for her and then when she is 18, and perhaps has a tree of her own, she will have the start of her own set of decorations, each one filled with a special memory. Now she is old enough to choose decorations for her box, but she wont know that they are hers until they are presented to her on her 18th Christmas! Boo’s box has one little decoration to start her off….

Letter Writing
No idea what to buy for an under one? A lovely idea I have come across is to ask everyone to write a letter containing aspirations, hopes and dreams you have for them that is not to be opened. The letters are then to be saved and opened on the child’s 18th birthday.

Board Games
‘Why do they only come out of the cupboard at Christmas?’ I ask myself this every year, but every year a new game is purchased for Christmas and once we have had a few too many Proseccos, we try and get our heads around the instructions and play! Really hoping this year it isn’t the Pie Face Game or Speak Out!

Family Photo book
A collection of everything we have been through together for the year. Holidays, achievements, fun times, memories, although it is incredibly time consuming it is nice to start somewhere and in no time you will have created a library of photo books documenting your years together.

I hope you have enjoyed reading about our Christmas family traditions, and perhaps you may have time to add some to your December festivities for this year. If not, there is always next year!

Friday, 9 December 2016

Places to Visit Father Christmas around Winchester


One of the challenges every parent has faces time of year is 'Where to see Father Christmas'. As a new parent, it might seem a bit ridiculous... Lets face it, they aren't going to understand what an earth is going on, they may even cry, but think of all the cute photographs you can take of them sitting on his knee, pulling his beard and looking perplexed as they try and figure it all out... It is likely that you will be far more excited about taking them to meet Father Christmas than they are, but for some of you I am sure it is still on your 'to do' list this December. 

If you do decide to take them to see Father Christmas, do you go all out? Spend a fortune and hope that it is the Miracle on 34th Street type experience that you hope it will be, with presents better than you have bought for them?  Or do you go try and save a few quid, go budget and end up with your child sat on a dodgy Santa's knee receiving a gift that probably came from Poundland?  

Either way...if you are thinking about it for this year or planning ahead for next year here I thought I would seek out the options available to you in and around Winchester to make things just a little easier for you all. Some, unfortunately, are sold out but I thought you would like to know they exist. I find with some of these events for children you need to book about two months in advance, so keep them in mind for next year if there is one you like the look of. 

1.Tourist Information Centre at The Guildhall
Children £6.50

2.The Good Life Farm Shop
Children £9.95
Adults from £3.95
SOLD OUT

3.Hinton Ampner, Arlesford
21st and 22nd Dec
Children £7.50

4.Watercress Line Santa Special, Arlesford
Children from £10
Adults £18

5.Christmas at Marwell
19th November-24th December
Children £5
Adult from £26.50

6.Fair Oak Garden Centre, Eastleigh 
Children £9.99
Adults from £3.99

7.Paultons Park, Romsey
Children from £6.00
Adults £27.95

8.Finkley Down Farm Park, Andover
£6.50 (plus normal farm admission)

9.Festival Place, Basingstoke
£4.50 including a train ride

10.Milestones Museum, Basingstoke
£3.50 (plus normal museum admission)

As an alternative option there is also the Space Mission for Santa at the Winchester Science Centre and Planetarium.  This costs £7.50, or £3.80 when buying entry to the Science Centre.  

Wednesday, 7 December 2016

Baby's First Christmas



I am a self confessed lover of all things Christmas. To me, it really is the most wonderful time of the year. I am a true believer in the fact that days in December are sacred and should be as special as they can and that, as far as possible, the mundane boring bits we have to do in life should be absconded to other months.

This year, I face a new Christmas experience, Boo’s first Christmas. Now, given the fact that Christmas usually begins in our house with festive film viewing in October, you would think that I had been planning, arranging and organising the most wonderfully special and magnificent Christmas full of personalised wonderments for a good few weeks now…. But in actual fact that isn’t the case. Why? If I’m honest, I think I am slightly overwhelmed.

There is so much pressure on new parents to do everything they possibly can to make the first Christmas perfect, special and the most memorable occasion you have ever had together. Have you got everything ready? There is a plethora of what some may consider ‘must have items’ for baby’s first Christmas, and parents can end up spending a huge amount because of the pressure and competition of making their child’s first Christmas ‘the best’.

There are the personalised Christmas decorations such as baubles, present sacks, stockings, snow globes and letters to Father Christmas.  The ‘special’ items for the Grandparents and relatives like the hand or footprint that you know they will be thinking ‘where on earth are we going to put that?’ and the posed family Christmas cards that are 10 times the cost of normal ones.   Then there are the clothes; a Christmas bib…ruined at breakfast, Christmas pyjamas that they will still be wearing in March, Christmas jumpers and those ‘special’ Christmas outfits…covered in food and poo by lunchtime.  Lastly there are the presents like the personalised Christmas storybook that are 10 times more expensive than regular storybooks (Tip: call your daughter Matilda and buy her the Roald Dahl classic for £3.99)

At the end of the day, you know in your heart of hearts that whatever you choose they are most likely going to enjoy playing with the following on Christmas Day:

  • The old favourite with the under-ones - wrapping paper
  • The empty Christmas stocking with the unwanted orange still lodged in the bottom which they are slowly squeezing all of the juice out of
  • The chocolate coins that they have managed to get their mitts on despite Daddy thinking he has put them ‘out of reach’ that they are now busy munching away…with the foil still on
  • The empty cardboard box Granddad has discarded once he has devoured all the ‘Just Brazils’ in one sitting, before lunch, much to Grandma’s dismay
  • The scraps of ribbon that Mummy is discreetly trying to squirrel away to reuse next year

Basically anything that you didn’t actually buy them!

But then there is that persistent thought… am I going to be an awful parent if I don’t?  Then the first purchase happens… then it snowballs.  Before you know it you are re-mortgaging the house just to feel like you are keeping up with all this baby’s first Christmas madness. And it’s everywhere; in shops, magazines, adverts as you mindlessly scroll through Facebook (Not on the High Street has A LOT to answer for…) and in other people’s posts on social media sites.  As much as you try and tell yourself that you really don’t need it you will, inevitably, end up with a considerable amount of first Christmas paraphernalia.

Those nagging thoughts that keep spinning round your head because you simply can’t get past how adorable your child will look in that Christmas pudding hat, and how people will like the very individual and perfectly crafted Christmas decoration hanging on your tree, that naturally no one else will have…but actually everyone will

We all give in. I have. I am guilty of many ‘Baby’s First Christmas’ purchases that I convinced myself in October we simply didn’t need. I blame the sleep deprivation, it has made me weak, but…. It’s going to be one hell of an awesome Christmas!

Happy First Christmas to all you amazing parents, and adorable little elves.